a hypersexuality guide
What is Hypersexuality?
Hypersexuality is a disorder in which a person has constant obsessive, intrusive sexual thoughts, feelings, emotions, urges and actions that affect their daily life immensely. It can disrupt and disturb things such as: relationships, plans, time, etc. It is normally a trauma response, but it is not one in all cases. Being sexually abused/assaulted could drive a person to be hypersexual, or the hypersexuality could be coming from something else, such as things like mental illness (like bi-polar disorder, for example), or even overstress. It is not a willing experience, it is something that feels completely uncontrollable for the person, which ends up in them often feeling ashamed, disgusted and grossed out even over these thoughts/actions.
Awareness Flag Information
Here is the Hypersexuality Awareness Flag that I created. Feel free to use it/share it! No credit is needed just don't claim as if you made it!
(If you would like to credit though, just say it was made by starbunniie)Note: Remember, this flag is for awareness and a symbol for the safe space. This is not glorifying the disorder, and it is not an attempt to merge with the LGBTQ+. This is NOT a pride flag.
Hypersexuality Flag
The design of this flag has a meaning as well.I picked the color red due to the fact of it being the color of intimacy, and hypersexuality has to do with a intimate part of yourself. Although intrusive, it is still considered a very personal thing.The pigment of the red lightens as it gets to the center. This is to symbolize "reaching for clarity/purity". The darker the red, the further away you feel from clarity, as if you are getting lost or losing control. The lighter, it shows you growing, being able to have a better control on your hypersexuality, and becoming more stabilized.The pinkish line with the rose in the middle is to symbolize you overcoming hypersexuality and being able to fully control it. Think of
the rose in the middle as a "badge
of progress".
Puberty vs. Hypersexuality
Puberty is a process all adolescents go through, while hypersexuality is not. Hypersexuality is also different from having a high sex drive, which is just a general increased libido. Hypersexuality is difficult to/near impossible to control. Hormones let you experience normal sexual urges/feelings/emotions every now and then. Sometimes you'll have them in one situation and in the same situation at a different time you won't. Being hypersexual means you cant control and constantly do/think about sexual activities and things, even in situations where its not inherently sexual at all. It could be tied within wanting validation or things like past/current trauma and this is how your mind copes. It doesn't have to be because of trauma but it's just one of the reasons for some people.
Importance of a Hypersexuality Safe Space
An outlet many young people lean towards is the internet, even though, for many of us, it was one of the leading causes of our trauma. Since the internet is the fastest and most convenient method of getting in touch with one another, setting up a safe space for hypersexuals is something that’s long overdue. Many people misunderstand what it means to be hypersexual, and because of lack of knowledge, they simply react in a way that makes them feel less threatened. Many hypersexuals have been cast out of other “safe” spaces simply for existing; we’re painted as hormonal teenagers not worthy of attention, or, on the flip side, creeps that nobody wants anything to do with. This hypersexual safe space will be housing not only hypersexuals, but non hypersexuals as well for the sake of education.
How do I know if I'm Hypersexual?
Some indications that you may be struggling with compulsive sexual behavior include:- You have recurrent and intense sexual fantasies, urges and behaviors that take up a lot of your time and feel as if they're beyond your control.- You feel driven to do certain sexual behaviors, feel a release of the tension afterward, but also feel guilt or remorse.- You've tried unsuccessfully to reduce or control your sexual fantasies, urges or behavior.- You use compulsive sexual behavior as an escape from other problems, such as loneliness, depression, anxiety or stress.- You continue to engage in sexual behaviors that have serious
consequences, such as the potential for getting or giving someone else a sexually transmitted infection, the loss of important relationships, trouble at work, financial strain, or legal problems.- You have trouble establishing and maintaining healthy and stable relationships.note: you must either ask a professional, or research for yourself. we can not determine if you really are hypersexual or not, we can only point you in direction and give suggestions.
How to Help Contain/Limit Sexual Urges
Sometimes its okay to give into you’re sexual urges, as long as you aren’t harming yourself or others. Give into it once in a while just to subside the urges, there is no reason to feel ashamed or guilty as it’s completely okay and none of these behaviors/feelings/thoughts are your fault!Some ways to help limit some of these disrupting sexual urges are to:- Partake in hobbies that don’t revolve around the media too much. Some examples would be sewing/knitting, reading, art, etc.- Instead of waiting for yourself to become overwhelmed with these feelings, when you are starting to feel as if you are about to spiral, try talking to someone you know. It doesn't have to be about your hypersexuality, just a way to take your mind off of it.- When you start feeling these urges, try to distance yourself from whatever pushes you closer to spiraling again. Whether that be moving from electronics, or going outside, etc.- Sleep it off! I find that taking a short nap helps to subside urges for a bit. Try not to sleep for unnatural amounts of time, however. If you have trouble sleeping, take a few melatonin before you go to bed so you don’t wake up at a bad time.- If needed, talk to a professional. Try not to get all your information from the internet, as it’s not always a reliable source.
About Us
This idea and carrd was started by Brielle and Tomie. Our main goal is to reach out to others who are hypersexual that may be feeling left out or alone, and give them a safe place to go. Our second goal is to spread information to those who may be questioning if they are hypersexual, or just want to know what hypersexuality is in general.The best way to contact us for questions or if you just want to chat is to join our discord server!At times we can also help answering questions through tiktok comments as well! Both the discord server and tiktok page is linked in the homepage!(Please note we are both students and we have other things concerned with our life that we both have to take care of, so please be patient if we don't respond right away.)